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Reset…

So, my first three weeks of my 51 week project ended yesterday.  I am really happy with how things went.  I walked 16 days out of 21 and two of those I substituted a stepping workout.  My plan was to walk 6 days out of 7, so the 16 plus the stepping workouts makes it all even out.  My strength workouts were also planned for 6 days a week.  I had successful results with those too, I didn’t miss a day.

Happy side effects are that I am drinking more water and my clothes are fitting better. Looking forward to adding on to my good habits in the next 3 weeks.

Phase 2 is all about me taking care of me.  It’s flu season and I need to make sure I am getting enough rest.  I am hoping that if I can get a routine going for mornings and nighttime that I will feel more rested and less tired throughout the day.

I will be continuing with the daily walking maybe going for 0.70 miles a day instead of time.  I will work on adding more distance each week.  My strength workouts are looking good too.  New exercises will be added each week for upper body and lower body.  I will throw in abs starting tomorrow.

Phase 2

 

Phase 2:  Day 1
 
I had a good walk.  it was a bit shorter than normal because it started to rain about half way through.  I was planning on backtracking on the last little bit.  When I got back to the house I decided to cut it short.  I was getting cold.
 
I got some good stretching done.  The backs of my legs have been very tight.  Hopefully, I will be able to loosen them up.
 
My morning routine went well and I left myself a note about tonight’s routine.
 
 
 
 

 

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Agreement…

Today I am taking my cue from another blog.  I’ve mentioned before that I read the awesome blog Reinventing Fabulous written by the incredible authors, Jennifer Crusie, Lani Diane Rich and Anne Stuart (Krissie).  Every Wednesday Lani posts a short entry of amazing insight .  It’s WTF Wednesday, sometimes the F is for fabulous and sometimes it’s for the other F word.  Everyone can talk about the fab or f*%$*d stuff in their lives.

Today her post was entitled, Yes.   Here is what she says…

“In improv, there’s a Yes, And Rule. Which means, that whenever someone proposes anything in the fiction, no matter how preposterous, your role is to accept that reality, and then add something new to it. No shuts things down; no stops all movement. Yes keeps things going, and And brings them somewhere new.”
 
 
saying yes

This is so true.   We’ve all had conversations with people that have said no even before  we’ve finished speaking.  Does anyone still feel like talking after that?  Definitely not me, I’d have spun around and left the room at that point…well, most of the time anyway.  Saying no effectively ends any attempt at conversation.

There are times, of course, when you want to shut down the conversation, like when Boo is telling me how hungry she is 3o minutes before dinnertime and that one cookie will really help.  Uhmmm, no, you had lunch at a reasonable hour (and most likely a snack in the afternoon) you can wait the half hour until dinner is ready.  Or with door to door salespeople.   I have a note on the door that reads “No soliciting of any kind.  Thank you.”  I still get people ringing the doorbell and knocking.  I don’t answer the door unless I know someone is stopping by but occasionally a salesperson will catch me heading to the mailbox or watering the flowers.   I try to be polite but sometimes I just end up saying ‘no’ over and over until they leave.

The important thing is to say yes to keep the good things moving along.  Sometimes you have to say yes by doing something new or scary.  That isn’t always easy and it can take a lot of courage to take that first step.  Sometimes you just have to hold your breath and close your eyes and just go.  I am terrible about this but I try to think of what I would say to Boo or Sully or Faith.  I would tell them to channel their inner warrior.  Several months ago I had a similar conversation with my niece who was getting ready to start community college and was a bit nervous about driving on the freeway.  She’s a great driver but her commute involved three different freeways and all during rush hour traffic.  I told her to channel Princess Leia (Star Wars) or Zoe (Firefly) or (insert my niece’s suggestion here, I don’t remember).  Do you think any of these strong women would be daunted by traffic?  They had a job to do and they would overcome any obstacle to get where they needed to go.  It worked, my niece wasn’t nervous and she got to and from school without any issues.

Hopefully, I will be able to channel my inner warrior and say yes.  This year is full of opportunities and I can’t wait to see what I can do.

Phase 1: Day 18
 
I had a pretty good walk, a little over 13 minutes and 0.7 miles.  I started off too fast and ended up with the shin pain midway through my walk.  At some point I am hoping that I find the right stride so I can just walk because this is making me crazy.  
 
I only did one set of my lower body workout because I am starting to feel not good.  I really don’t want to be sick and I am doing anything and everything I can to get enough rest and take care of myself .  Hopefully,  I will be less susceptible to catching whatever is going around.
 
Water = 44 ounces 
 
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Dreams…

This image was posted on Facebook a week or so ago by the Disney Movie Rewards page.  I love everything about the photo, the saying, the look on Walt’s face, the black and white.  Without really thinking about it I saved the photo and went on my way.  A few days later it popped back into my head, thinking about courage.

When you really think about it, you realize how much courage it takes to get what we want in life.  Think about getting married, you meet this person and fall in love but you have no idea what it is like to be married.  Sharing a house and responsibility can be daunting and oftentimes people change when they get married.  I think a lot of the blame comes around to expectations.  If you are thinking marriage is going to be all white picket fences and birdsong you might be a little resentful when it becomes about laundry and bills.

Sully and I were lucky.  I was an observant kid and noticed my parents working through the normal issues of any married couple.  I knew going in, that marriage was a work in progress and I was happy to work at it to be with Sully.  To his credit, Sully is easy to live with, sure, we have our moments but who doesn’t.  I have friends that have had issues that almost started on the honeymoon.  Some of them are still together and a few didn’t make it past the first year.  Either way, it takes courage to jump into that abyss of the unknown.

It’s the same with having kids.  There’s no manual, every child is different.  I mean, how do you prepare for that?  You don’t, you just close your eyes and trust that you will figure it out when the time comes.  Even when things are going well you keep wondering if you are doing it right.  You don’t have to look far to see parents that are clearly dropping the ball.  Parents of kids from school, dance class, and people you just see day to day, then there’s the craziness of celebrities and their kids.  It just makes you wonder.

After all of that, we are supposed to have courage to chase our dreams too?  Yes, and I honestly understand this completely.  As much as I was meant to be married to Sully and to be Boo’s mom, I was also meant to be a writer.  Now it’s just up to me to have the courage to make it happen.  Something about that image of Walt Disney really hit me, I mean, I feel like I almost have to do it now.  How can I not?  I’ve got Walt Disney pulling for me, right?

Ok, well, I guess I need to figure out where I put my courage so I can get back to writing.

Phase 1: Day 16
 
I didn’t walk today, it’s my normal day off.  Boo has dance and the day is usually pretty crazy.  Today was a holiday and Sully isn’t feeling well.  So, no dance but still crazy.
 
I added a new exercise to my lower body workout.  It’s called the ‘Outer/Inner Thigh Kick Stretch’, which involves crossing your right leg in front of your left leg and then swinging it out to the right side, then of course, doing the same on the left side.  I think it will be really good for that tight thigh muscle.  Yikes, I sound like some old bird griping about all of my ‘conditions’.  I just need to stretch more and more often.
 
Water = 56 ounces
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Transition…

Another week is done, Week 2 of Phase 1 went really well.  I walked over 4 miles over seven days and six walks.  I did my strength exercises Monday thru Saturday adding one new exercise to my routines.  I am quite excited that today is my day off from my exercises.  My upper body exercises were making me sore.  I have until Tuesday to recover.

I am happy to say that I am now entering Week 3.  It’s in this week where I find that I will either stick with something or I will inexplicably drop the ball.  I don’t understand it myself but it’s happened more than once.   I have started the EA Sports Active 3o Day Challenge several times.  It really only has 20 days of exercises because there are set rest days within the challenge.  I have gotten to exercise day 17 or 18 and then just stopped.  The reasons are varied but mostly it came down to the fact that I simply lost my motivation.  I’d miss a day and try to make it up and then I’d miss another day.  That day would stretch into two and then suddenly I would be completely off track.feeding the dog

This time I am not going to let that happen.  I have a plan and I am going to stick with it.  I’ve stayed on track for 14 days and I only have 7 days left.  That’s six days of walking, three days of upper body workouts and three days of lower body workouts.  I can do that, right?  When you break it down like that it doesn’t seem like that hard of a thing to do.  It doesn’t seem like it to me.  I can ignore the fact that after this week is over I fully intend to keep walking and doing my strength exercises.  Right now, all that is important is that I reach my three week goal.  That I make these activities habit, part of my daily life, as integral to my day as taking a shower or feeding the dog.  

This is the point of transition, changing these activities from ideas I want to do and have to remind myself to do into activities that I just do because they need to be done.  I don’t know why it’s so hard to convince myself to take care of me.  I’ll spend time taking care of the bunnies or other critters in the house, I would think it’d be okay to spend equal time on me.  I am ready to finish out this week and this first three week ‘phase’ strong.

Phase 1: Day 15
 
I had a good walk.  I’ve been getting pain in my shins midway through my walk.  I did some online research and it seems that power walking with long strides can cause this.  I am doing some extra stretching and my strength exercises to help my muscles adapt quicker.  In the meantime, I am going to walk a more even pace and shoot for about 12 minutes and 0.7 miles.  I did a pretty good job, I was on my last 300 yards or so when I felt my shins start to think about hurting.  I shortened my stride and was able to finish my walk without it getting out of hand.
 
No workout today but I did get an extended stretching session in before bedtime.  I was really ready for a day off from the strength exercises.
 
Water = 48 ounces –>  I seriously need to be better about drinking enough water everyday.  I am now to the point that I can tell the next day whether I had enough water the previous day.  Who knew I’d ever become one of those people.  🙂
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Listening…

Today the Arizona State University (ASU) Facebook page posted this status:

Tell us! If you could go back in time and give your high school self advice, what would it be and why?

My first thought was get better grades.  This must be some sort of knee jerk response because I had great grades in high school.  I was in the National Honor Society and took honors classes.  After graduation I found out that I was ranked 7th in our senior class.  Granted, there were only 70 kids in our graduating class but I still think that was pretty good.  Either way, get better grades is not something I needed to tell my high school self.

 

listening

I thought about it for a few minutes and then decided I would have listened to my dad.  As a rule, most high school students don’t take much of what their parents tell them to heart.  I was a pretty good listener but this wasn’t one of those times.  Now my dad was pretty awesome, I always refer to him as a Renaissance man.  He played college football at a small college in California, had degrees in Social Studies and Kinesiology, the study of human movement.  He later got a masters in Political Science from ASU.  He taught in Catholic high schools for over 45 years and coached football for over 20 years, two of his teams being State Champions.  Over the years, he also coached swimming and track.  Away from work, he continued the trend.  He could repair just about anything; cars, plumbing, furniture, you name it.  He built cars from the frame up and added on a three room addition to the house from the ground up.  He was also part of the church singing group and a published poet.

To say my dad was in favor of everyone going to college would be a major understatement.  He knew that in order to get a good job a degree would be required.  There were three kids in my family, my older brother and sister, and me.  We all knew that he expected us to go to college.  I felt that a little more than the others, or at least perceived that I had more pressure because I was the brain of the family.  My brother and sister got pretty good grades, mostly Bs with an occasional C every now and then.  My brother was literally the All American athlete, four year letterman in football and track.  My sister was the artist, she helped work on a school mural and was a big part of the drama department.

So, the advice from my dad, I had a conversation with him when I was in college.  I was very upset that a class I needed to take wasn’t going to be offered the next semester.  I was trying to explain that if I couldn’t take that class then I would be behind a semester.  I was really upset and had already decided that I was never going to graduate. He told me to quit worrying about my classes and get back to writing.  I was bit surprised and told him I was going to school so I would have something to fall back on.  He seemed fairly irritated with me and said, “Forget it, go write,” and then walked out of the room.

I’d love to say that I sat down that day and started writing again and never looked back, but sadly, that’s not the case. That conversation definitely stuck with me and I definitely feel that writing is what I am supposed to do.  I wish I had listened to him more carefully and spent more time writing in the years between then and now.   It makes me sad that I didn’t follow through while he was alive.  Hopefully, the universe had a plan with all of this.

Phase 1:  Day 14
 
I had a great walk today.  I walked  nearly a mile in over 15 minutes.  My goal for the Runkeeper app was walk 4 miles from Sunday to Saturday.  I knew I had to walk a little extra, it was my best walk since I started though.  I set personal records for time, distance and pace.  Yay me!
 
My upper body workout went well.  I will admit that I am getting annoyed with my bent row/tricep kickback exercise.  It takes so long to get through one set.  It’s not really hard to do just time consuming.
 
Water = 72 ounces
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Believing…

Remember when I was talking about expectations and that evil voice inside your head?  Here’s something to think about.  I read an article recently, I don’t remember where and I’ve been looking for a week.  When I find it I will add a link to it here.  Anyway, the article basically said that you believe what you say.  So, if you say to yourself, “I don’t want to go play tennis, I am going to suck at it,” the chances are that you will end up sucking.  According to the article studies have been done showing that athletes that said that they would win, would win more often than those that said they would lose.  The athletes didn’t even have to believe that they would win, they just had to say it to make a difference.  

Believe

We’ve all said something and then added, “If I keep saying it maybe I’ll even start believing it.” Apparently this can actually be a true statement.  I wonder what would happen if we replaced all of our negative thoughts with positive ones.  If we replaced ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can’.  Everyone I talk to has that voice that cuts them down.  How often do people say that they themselves are their worst critic?  I have talked to a lot of writers and they always mention that inner critic that causes problems from the first word of chapter one to the last word on the final page.

I think I am ready to quiet the evil voice.  I am ready to replace all of that insidious verbal poison with the good stuff, the truth.

I am funny and smart, and really creative.  I know I have the potential to be a great writer.  I am an awesome mother and fabulous wife.  I am frickin’ fantastic!.

Phase 1: Day 13
 
I had a good walk Gramma’s neighborhood this afternoon.  I was walking at a slower pace but walked for a little over 14 minutes.  So, I can’t really complain.
 
I got my lower body workout done.  I am doing step ups instead of lunges to avoid too much strain on my knees.  I certainly enjoy step ups in place of the lunges, every thing except the sound.  There is a small thud every time I step up and after a while it makes me a bit batty.
 
Water = 68 ounces.  Really good! 
 
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Mix…

Today was the perfect mix of relaxing and getting things done.  Sully was working from home and Boo and I had an easy school day.  After the chaos of Monday, the productivity of Tuesday and the lackluster of yesterday I was ready for a more balanced day.

Sometimes I watch TV, either shows or commercials and I find myself wondering about other people’s lives.  Do other people really have a clean house everyday?  I mean clean, people stopping by kind of clean, my house is straightened, well, most days if I am in the middle of a project probably not.  So, straightened but not really in condition for guests.  It makes me crazy, I will get everything cleaned up and then the next day it’s a mess again.  The monotony of housework is probably the main problem, I mean, talk about never ending.  Every week I wash the same clothes, sweep the same floors, wipe down the same counters and about a gazillion other things.  I do all of that knowing that I will have to do it again tomorrow or next week.  It’s a bit daunting and a little depressing some days.  Mom hours

I was in Home Depot the other day and this guy looks over at me and says, “You must have taken the day off so you could paint.”  He kind of said it like I was some clueless woman that had no business being in Home Depot.  I don’t know if he meant it like that but it’s sure how it sounded, the woman behind me even groaned.  I replied, “Nope, I am a stay at home mom, I don’t get any days off.”  The paint guy at Home Depot smiled and said, “It’s pretty tough, huh?”  I shrugged, “It’s like any other job, it’s got it’s up and downs.  For the most part it’s good, just no days off.”  He laughed, which I appreciated.  The other guy shut up immediately and stayed out of my way after that.

My hope is that one of these days I will get on a schedule where the house will stay clean with minimum effort.  I am sure I am reaching but I can still hope, right?

 

Phase 1:  Day 12
 
I had another good walk, I walked 0.7 miles in just under 13 minutes.  I am looking forward to adding to my distance.  
 
I am starting to really feel my upper body workout, moving all of those boxes this week are probably adding to my workout.
 
Water = 32 ounces