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Nothing going on…

My short rant for the week…

I am a stay at home mom, in charge of teaching homeschool, housekeeping, pet caretaking, landscaping, and pretty much everything else that goes on here.  Yet time and time again, people who very well know how much I do here but act like I just sit around watching TV.  No one has ever said anything straight out but there is definitely the air of ‘you don’t have a job so your schedule isn’t important.’  

It makes me crazy.  I offer to help and then I have to work around their schedule.  No one even asks me what will work for me.  Half the time I show up at the time they tell me and then I have to wait around for them.  I spend so much time standing around thinking of all of the stuff that I need to do at home.  It’s so rude and disrespectful.  It seriously makes me want to scream.  

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It’s about time…

It’s Tuesday and that means that Sully is working in the office today.  Work has been a bit stressful for him over the last few weeks.  Every year his company threatens lay offs and everyone freaks out between September and December.  It’s a bit ridiculous how they use fear to control I mean, motivate the employees.  It doesn’t help that every year they host a huge employee retreat in Hawaii.  Supposedly it’s to reward people for sales and other accomplishments but it’s the same people every year.  This year they didn’t even try act like they were taking the top people.  Usually the top person from each area is invited, this year, they combined the top people from three areas and picked one name.    

So every year, either right before the retreat or right after they get back the lay- off talk starts.  About the same time each year, they shuffle around the bigwigs, some go but most of them just get a new title.  The whole thing is frustrating.

Sully came home annoyed, their whole group is giving up a telecommuting day.  It’s a bummer because it means we will be spending more money on gas and lunches.  It’s not a huge amount but the 25 mile one way trip adds up. 

The cost is a bummer, for sure but the real issue is the time.  Sully and I really treasure the time we have together and his being able to telecommute several times a week is one of the best things about his job.  We know firsthand that life is unpredictable and time is fleeting.  You never know what tomorrow will bring and that you have to make the most of now.  Nobody looks back on their life and thinks ‘I wish I had worked more.’   We are confident that we will be able to look back and feel comfortable that we took advantage of the time given to us together.  My parents met when they were 14 years old and got married at 22 and were happy until my mom passed at the age of 65.  Sully and I didn’t meet until I was 30, we both kind of feel like we have a lot of time to make up.

It’s just more incentive for me to write my book so he doesn’t have to worry.

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Almost there…

It was no coincidence that I scheduled my 21 day challenge to end the day before we left on vacation.  It seemed like a good idea at the time, wind down the challenge and then reward myself with the vacation.  Unfortunately, it hasn’t really played out like that.  There’s so much to do that I am having a hard time keeping track of both. 

Today was a bit of a trial.  My vehicle needs an oil change before the trip.  I say vehicle because I was just informed that my Honda Odyssey is not a van or minivan but a wagon.  It sounds weird to say ‘my wagon needs an oil change’, so I settled on vehicle but that still seems strange.  Somehow too technical, too bereft of description.  So, anyway my Honda Odyssey (too much?).  My Odyssey needs an oil change, and I had mentioned to Sully’s mom that maybe we could do lunch.  I’d drop off the va…wago…Odyssey and she could pick me/us up and go to lunch.  There are plenty of places to eat just across the way from the Honda dealership.  

That was all worked out and then Gramma (Sully’s mom) had the oil light go on in her wagon (another Odyssey) and so she decided to go early since it should be quick.  She has a much newer Odyssey and she never waits more than 30 minutes.  So, then it was we would meet at Honda, her ‘wagon’ would be done and we’d go to lunch while mine was in for service.   Sully would be working from home so he would be able to go too.  

This morning I am at swim with Boo and I get a text saying ‘I’m at Honda and there is an hour and a half wait.  I will text you when the van is ready’  (Clearly, she hasn’t gotten the wagon vs. van memo.)  So, Boo and I head home to change and to get Sully.  So, we’re sitting there waiting for the text from Gramma and all I can think of is all of the stuff I need to do to get ready for the trip.  It’s Wednesday and we leave Friday morning, we haven’t packed, I don’t even have the luggage out yet.  There’s no time to start anything, Gramma could text at any moment.  After about 30 minutes, just about the time that Sully was about to lose his patience, we get the text and head out.  

Lunch was fun, but Honda is still backed up so Gramma drives us home after and we’ll have to go back to Honda later to pick up the Odyssey.  I decide to get to work on Boo’s bathroom, while Boo works on her bedroom.  I get all of the cleaning stuff and get halfway down the hall when I realize that I had started laundry earlier and I still needed to get stuff in the dryer.  I stop to do that and on to the bathroom.  I barely started cleaning the bathroom when Sully hollers at me from where he is working in the master bedroom.  I go back down the hall and across the bedroom and he asks me about what time the guy at Honda said the car would be done.  I look at the clock do some quick calculations and say, ‘really, anytime now.’  The phone started ringing before I finished talking.  So, the guy at Honda says that the Odyssey is ready and that my rear tires need to be replaced.  Something about dry rot and damage from a nail…oy.  I already knew the bathroom would have to wait when the phone rang but now it’s really going to have to wait.  

Back to Honda and then on to Walmart for new tires.  Normally, Walmart would not be my first choice but about a year ago I needed a tire on Memorial Day weekend and Walmart was the only place that was open.  I was very thankful because I had to help Sully’s parents with a dr’s appointment the next day.  In October, I replaced another tire at Walmart so it seemed smart to just stay with those tires.  Also, I had some last minute shopping to do and I figured I could do it while waiting.  

Wednesday must be a busy day because Walmart was also backed up, we were there for 20 minutes before the service guy was able to get to us.  He got us checked in and then told us the wait would be an hour and a half.  Of course, it is.  So, Boo and I start shopping and text Sully that we would be there for a while.  Sully decides to come pick us up since we live about a mile away.  I got most of the shopping done although I really needed to look for some new shorts.  We went back home and I finally got Boo’s bathroom cleaned up, the dog’s fed and then back out to pick up the Odyssey again.  These back and forth trips are making me crazy, the summer heat isn’t helping either, 106 degrees, blah!

I continued to work on laundry but not much else, the day was just too exhausting.  Hopefully, I will have a more productive day tomorrow.  Sully has an early meeting at the office so hopefully I can get up early and get a jump on things in the morning.  I will park the Civic in the garage tomorrow when he gets back.  Yay!

Day 20

1.  Water –  3 – 24 oz. tumblers

2.  Shimmy –  **

3.  Writing  –  

4.  Exercises – Stretching/light cardio**

5.  Project – General house straightening

** I am still sore from the increased activity in the house/garage.  I am doing extra stretching and some light cardio to warm up my muscles.

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Blame me…

It really is my fault.

This week was all about getting through the WTF moments that kept cropping up.  I told myself don’t start anything new, work on finishing stuff I already started.  In that regard, I had a fabulous week, a few things got done including the photos and frames.  I had the same basic plan going into the weekend.   Work on finishing stuff around the house and don’t start anything new.

The only problem with that plan is that I appear to lack the ability to stay focused.

Friday in the midst of the car breaking down drama and talking to Boo about going swimming with Aunt Lily another day we discussed swimming pools.  I sarcastically asked Sully how much a pool would cost.   He took me seriously for a moment and then we were interrupted by the car stuff again.  Later that night I thought about it again and wondered why we couldn’t get a small above ground pool.   I grew up with them and spent all day everyday during the summer either in the pool or around it.  My parents took great care of the pool, my dad even built a deck on one side so people could sit and relax on the side or just stick their feet in.  He made gates to cover the underneath part so we could use it for storage.  It was pretty cool.

When we got home Friday night, I suggested it to Sully.  We talked briefly before Boo wandered in babbling about something.  I wake up this morning and all I can think of it getting a pool.  A little online research and I find that the smaller pools are around $100.  I finally corner Sully and he’s totally for it.  OMG, I am so excited, like I am about to cry excited, so completely ridiculous.  We  picked up the pool Saturday afternoon, ran some other errands and then came home to eat dinner.

After dinner, I was thinking about what needed to be done to get the pool installed and looked at the house.  Oy!  I did it again!  I have all of this stuff to do in the house and I started another damn project.  My irritation pretty much snuffed out my excitement over the pool.  Blerg…

This next week I have to, have to, HAVE TO get some of this stuff done and taken care of, or I am going to just go nuts.  Seriously, have to get it done.

June+1My June +1 for today will be a recap of how things went this last week.  Oddly enough, I did pretty well last week.  Physically, I was full on with my arm/leg workouts and stretching.  Mentally, I am still reading daily, I took a nap one day and over all I am taking better care of myself.  I need to write more but I am thinking about it everyday, which is a step in the right direction.  This week, I need to do a better job drinking water and eating healthy but all in all I am looking at last week as a positive.

 

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Whiskey Tango Foxtrot…

Boo and I were up early to go to Aunt Lily’s to swim again.

Sully left for work and about twenty minutes later I got a call from him that he was pulling off of the freeway.  His car had broken down again, seriously?  Boo and I got dressed in a hurry and took care of the critters so that we could go rescue Sully.  Just before we left he called back to say that he thought it was just a flat tire, so we could hold off on the tow truck.

He was right it was just a flat tire but we still had to call a tow truck because we couldn’t get the lug nuts to budge.  Luckily, Sully had pulled off the road about a mile from his mom’s house.  We were able to go there to coordinate the tow truck and repairs.

It’s Friday, so Boo and I were already going to be going to lunch and spending the day with Gramma, it was just going to be after swimming, not instead of.  We spent the day hanging out and watching TV, we caught up on a few shows and watched a movie.  Overall, it was a nice time.

Boo told me that she thought going to Aunt Lily’s to swim was jinxed.  I will have to figure out a way of fixing that impression.  I spent most of the day feeling stressed and frustrated.  It’s just been one of those weeks.   I need to work on that too.

June+1My June +1 for today was nodding and smiling.  It’s not much but coping with a stressful situation is a good thing.  I have accepted that sometimes all you can do is nod and smile.

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