Today I am taking my cue from another blog. I’ve mentioned before that I read the awesome blog Reinventing Fabulous written by the incredible authors, Jennifer Crusie, Lani Diane Rich and Anne Stuart (Krissie). Every Wednesday Lani posts a short entry of amazing insight . It’s WTF Wednesday, sometimes the F is for fabulous and sometimes it’s for the other F word. Everyone can talk about the fab or f*%$*d stuff in their lives.
Today her post was entitled, Yes. Here is what she says…“In improv, there’s a Yes, And Rule. Which means, that whenever someone proposes anything in the fiction, no matter how preposterous, your role is to accept that reality, and then add something new to it. No shuts things down; no stops all movement. Yes keeps things going, and And brings them somewhere new.”
This is so true. We’ve all had conversations with people that have said no even before we’ve finished speaking. Does anyone still feel like talking after that? Definitely not me, I’d have spun around and left the room at that point…well, most of the time anyway. Saying no effectively ends any attempt at conversation.
There are times, of course, when you want to shut down the conversation, like when Boo is telling me how hungry she is 3o minutes before dinnertime and that one cookie will really help. Uhmmm, no, you had lunch at a reasonable hour (and most likely a snack in the afternoon) you can wait the half hour until dinner is ready. Or with door to door salespeople. I have a note on the door that reads “No soliciting of any kind. Thank you.” I still get people ringing the doorbell and knocking. I don’t answer the door unless I know someone is stopping by but occasionally a salesperson will catch me heading to the mailbox or watering the flowers. I try to be polite but sometimes I just end up saying ‘no’ over and over until they leave.
The important thing is to say yes to keep the good things moving along. Sometimes you have to say yes by doing something new or scary. That isn’t always easy and it can take a lot of courage to take that first step. Sometimes you just have to hold your breath and close your eyes and just go. I am terrible about this but I try to think of what I would say to Boo or Sully or Faith. I would tell them to channel their inner warrior. Several months ago I had a similar conversation with my niece who was getting ready to start community college and was a bit nervous about driving on the freeway. She’s a great driver but her commute involved three different freeways and all during rush hour traffic. I told her to channel Princess Leia (Star Wars) or Zoe (Firefly) or (insert my niece’s suggestion here, I don’t remember). Do you think any of these strong women would be daunted by traffic? They had a job to do and they would overcome any obstacle to get where they needed to go. It worked, my niece wasn’t nervous and she got to and from school without any issues.
Hopefully, I will be able to channel my inner warrior and say yes. This year is full of opportunities and I can’t wait to see what I can do.Phase 1: Day 18 I had a pretty good walk, a little over 13 minutes and 0.7 miles. I started off too fast and ended up with the shin pain midway through my walk. At some point I am hoping that I find the right stride so I can just walk because this is making me crazy. I only did one set of my lower body workout because I am starting to feel not good. I really don’t want to be sick and I am doing anything and everything I can to get enough rest and take care of myself . Hopefully, I will be less susceptible to catching whatever is going around. Water = 44 ounces